Tips for writing your own vows
Let’s face it, writing your wedding vows is fucking DAUNTING and a lot of couples opt out of it because it seems too hard - we feel you. We’ve created some tips to help you write killer vows every. single. time.
Highlight the little idiosyncrasies that define your partner and your relationship. Mention the inside jokes or peculiar habits (like putting your finger in their butt going up the stairs) that make you laugh and remind you of your unique story.
Think about the bizarre traits you adore in your partner. Is it their inexplicable obsession with colour-coded socks, or their talent for making bird noises every time they get excited about dessert? These peculiarities are the sprinkle of magic on your relationship cupcake. Visualize the future—a beautiful blend of spontaneous road trips and those moments when you both have a two-hour debate over the superiority of pineapple on pizza.
Compare your love to an unusual source of inspiration. Whether it’s a favourite movie, book, or even a nostalgic snack, find creative parallels that speak to your shared experiences.
As you write, just let it flow! Play with metaphors that reflect your uniqueness—like comparing your love to a mismatched pair of socks that, when worn together, create a perfect harmony. Remember, it's those unexpected quirks that truly bind you together and make your vows memorable.
We LOVE humour, and adding a touch can lighten the mood (especially if you’re a cryer like us). Share anecdotes or playful promises that showcase your fun-loving side while acknowledging the seriousness of the commitment.
Instead of traditional vows, make playful commitments. Promise to support your partner in their lifelong quest for the best pizza or to always let them pick the movie on date nights.
By intertwining genuine sentiment with an unexpected twist, your vows can truly stand out, serving as a vivid representation of your extraordinary relationship. Begin by diving deep into the essence of your journey together, perhaps recalling the time you both got lost on the way to that fancy restaurant and ended up at a questionable taco stand instead. Embrace the quirky traditions that keep your connection alive, like the random dance-offs in the kitchen or the way you both insist on watching the same terrible movie every month—because who says romance can't include a plot with a talking dog?
Weave a short story or a narrative that encapsulates a defining moment in your relationship. This can add depth and meaning in a delightful, light-hearted manner.such as that time you both got lost on a hike and ended up in someone else's backyard eating their tomatoes. It'll be a cute way to illustrate your bond and an even cuter way to embarrass yourself in front of your loved ones.
While detailed vows can be beautiful, a succinct expression of your feelings can be impactful. Aim for clarity with a sprinkle of whimsy.
Next, think about structure. Many couples find it helpful to divide their vows into three sections: a declaration of love, a promise, and a personal touch. The declaration can include your feelings and what your partner means to you. Follow this with specific promises you intend to uphold. You know, things like "I promise to let you have the last slice of pizza" or "I vow to always remind you where you left your keys." It’s the little things, right?
Keep your vows concise and heartfelt. Aim for about one to two minutes when read aloud. Think of it as a great commercial for your love story, not a trilogy. This ensures that your words are impactful without losing the attention of your audience, or causing a mass exodus to the snack table.
If you find it difficult to keep things brief, focus on the most significant aspects of your relationship and the commitments that matter most to you—like who does the dishes or takes out the trash. Not an easy feat, we know!
Practice delivering your vows aloud. Standing in front of a mirror might feel silly, but hey, at least you'll look good while you practice. You could even recruit a trusted friend to play a critical audience. They'll let you know if you went too far with the fart jokes—or maybe you didn’t go far enough!
Finally, don’t forget to write them down on beautiful stationery or a keepsake that you can hold during the ceremony. Trust me, clutching that note can really help tackle those nerves! Remember, your vows are a reflection of your love and partnership, so let those true emotions shine through—just spare us the detailed play-by-play of every squabble and resolution!
